non-it/its users need to get their shit together fr
ok time to elaborate.
earlier today i was talking to someone and i mentioned one of my friends, and said ‘yeah it was saying-’ and before i could finish my sentence she interrupted me and went “it?” as if i’d misspoken. when i said “yeah, it said-” she looked at me as if i’d like insulted her or something and went “why are you calling your friends its? don’t you mean they?”
i pretty much just went “nevermind” because that’s not worth it (and no i’m not misgendering a friend for someone else’s “comfort” like wtf) but the issue is
this. happens. every. time.
you tell someone else you use it/its? they look at you like you’re fucking insane. 99% of the time they will refuse to use your pronouns because it’s “offensive” to them (yknow what else is offensive? purposely misgendering me when i literally just told you my pronouns). when you talk about a friend who uses it/its pronouns, 99% of the time the other person will try to like. correct you or stop you even though they don’t even know who you’re talking about.
“well they/them is gender neutral too so just use th-” no. my pronouns are it/its. they/them is not it/its. they/them is misgendering.
“but it’s gender neutra-” okay and? if dude said he uses he/him and you used they/them that’s misgendering. why is it okay when it’s it pronouns?
“but it’s offensive to refer to people as-” bitch i am literally referring to myself as it/its. i am telling you directly in plain words that these are the pronouns that make me comfortable. i don’t give a fuck what you think of them they are my pronouns
at this point i settle with they/them because i’m just done having people look at me like i said a slur when i tell them what pronouns i’m comfortable with.
